Monday, January 29, 2007

Allow The Opportunity To Trust In Yourself

What happens when we allow our self-limiting beliefs to form barriers that prevent us achieving what we know is right for us? More often than not they end up doing exactly that – keeping us pinned in so as to prevent us winning and moving forward. Take a look at these as examples; “I’ll never get the chance to make it up to them,” or “I’ll never be offered that job,“ or “I’ll never get them to listen to me.” The result? Our attitude forms a level of expectancy that regularly manifests into reality – something we can have few qualms about. The solution? To allow ourselves the opportunity of winning by at least giving ourselves a chance.

Are You?

Often Held Back By Self-Limiting Beliefs?
Beaten Before You’ve Had A Go?
Wishing You Could Smash Through And Win?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Move Away From All This Negativity Into A Place Of Growth
Discover The Benefits Of ‘Allowing’ Opportunities To Unfold
Learn How To Develop Trust And Belief In Yourself

By shifting ourselves into this state of ‘allowing’, we unconsciously open our hearts and minds to the possibility of manifesting exactly what it is that is right for our life. Sometimes that means looking at what it is we need to achieve and taking the relevant action; other times that means simply developing trust within ourselves and our environment – in other words, ’allowing’ the opportunity to unfold. While the former can be perceived as the more practical and ‘hands-on,’ it is often the latter that conspires to have us intuitively taking the right action even when we’re totally unaware of it.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we throw all judgments and self-doubt to one side, and open ourselves to the possibility of winning. For example, here’s how we would turn around the aforementioned situations; “… I will create an opportunity to make it up to them,“ and “… I will be offered that job,” and “… I will find some way of helping them listen to me.“ Ultimately it’s about going one step further than simply developing a positive mindset – it’s about believing in what is right for our life and trusting that we and our environment will manifest this accordingly. Result – we smash through and leave behind those self-limiting beliefs, enabling us to advance forward and expand our lives and our horizons.

INQUIRY: How often are you held back by a lack of self-belief and optimism? Without this thought, how much better would your life be? What more could you create and achieve?

ACTION: For the next thirty days, ‘allow’ yourself the benefit of feeling positive and abundant regarding your goals and determinations. If at any time you feel gripped by self-limiting beliefs, shove them aside and step into a place of creativity and opportunity. Open your heart and mind to the possibility of winning. Practice how it feels. If necessary, release attachment to outcome and simply trust in yourself and your environment. Notice how much more positive you feel. Continue putting this into practice and experience your life moving forward with opportunity and abundance.

Make A Habit To Allow The Opportunity To Trust In Yourself

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Monday, January 22, 2007

Finish Your Thoughts And Sentences On A Positive Note

What happens when we’re confronted with a problem and let our negative thoughts and words prevent us from finding a solution? Usually the problem either remains as it is or it gets “worse.” Typically this is because of our own perception of circumstance or the way in which we choose to procrastinate. For example, we’re faced with a challenge and we conclude by thinking or saying, “…I don’t know how to do it,” or “… I can’t see how I’m going to make it work,” or “… I’ve never learned anything from it.” What’s the one thing in common with each of these statements? They’re self-defeating and they’re conclusive. The result? We bow to our negativity by believing we can not turn the situation around. The solution? To always conclude on a positive note, because this will at least give us the opportunity to search for a resolution.

Are You?

A Person Who Sees The Glass As ‘Half-Empty’?
Someone Who Uses Negative Language?
Defeated Before You’ve Even Begun To Try?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Move Away From “I Can’t Therefore I Won’t” To “I Can And I Will”
Learn Positive Conclusions That Enable You To Get Things Done
Develop A Positive
Mindset That Welcomes Challenge As An Opportunity

By creating a positive shift in the way we think and speak, we’re consciously and unconsciously informing ourselves that we have the option to manifest a positive outcome. In other words, we’re taking ownership and in doing so we’re giving ourselves the choice as to whether we win or lose.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we conclude our thoughts and sentences with positive language. For example, here are the ways in which we turn around the aforementioned situations; “… I will find a way to do it,“ and “… I am going to find a way to make it work,” and “… I am going to learn something from it.“ Result – we strengthen our determination to overcome our challenges and begin taking the steps necessary to manifesting this.
INQUIRY: How do feel each time you use negative language? Defeated? When do you use it most and what are the patterns? How does this impact your life?
ACTION: For the next thirty days, eradicate your negativity by concluding your thoughts and sentences with words that are positive and constructive. Allow yourself the opportunity and determination to win. Notice how your perspective transforms into the positive. Put this into practice more and more, and get ready to move onward and upward.

Make A Habit Of Finishing Your Thoughts And Sentences On A Positive Note

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Monday, January 15, 2007

Move Away From Using The Word "Why"

How do we feel when someone comes at us with a “Why” question, e.g. “Why haven’t you done …?” “Why do you always … ?“ or “Why do you never …?” Immediately we’re made to feel we’re the one at fault - we’re the one with the ‘problem’. In turn, it becomes easy for us to jump on the defensive, perhaps retaliating out of anger or closing up through insecurity. Either way it’s often counter-productive. And that’s exactly what can happen when we too ask someone a “Why” question. It even happens when we ask it of ourselves, e.g. “Why am always late for …” or “Why do I keep making that same mistake?” The solution? To come from a place of understanding so as to invite the other party to share more easily and openly.

Are You?

Always Asking “Why?” Of Other People (Or Yourself)?
Guilty Of Constantly Coming Across As Angry And Accusatory?
Feeling Yourself Getting More And More Stressed As A Result?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Learn How To Help Others Become More Receptive To You
Gain Their Trust And Support
Discover The Benefits Of Applying This Within Yourself Too

By moving from a place of accusation to a place of encouragement, we automatically invite ourselves and others to be more sharing and open. In other words, by making the change within, we create the change without. Key to this is transforming both our mindset and our choice of words – only then can we detach ourselves from the feelings of anger and frustration that we all too easily allow ourselves to attract.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we swap the word “Why” for something more open, e.g. “What are the reasons for … ?” “What happened to make …?” “For what reason …?” Once in this habit, we develop a more productive mindset and set of feelings. Not only do these radiate within us, they also reach out into our environment and invite constructive dialogue that reaps reward as opposed to condemnation.
Result – we feel more open and accepting of ourselves and encourage others to feel the same – it’s as simple as that.

INQUIRY: Take a look back over the last few days at the number of occasions where you used a “Why” question. What kind of feeling did you associate with it? What kind of response did you receive? How much better could it have been had you been more understanding?

For the next thirty days, stop yourself from asking “Why” and adopt a warmer approach. Get in touch with the way you’re feeling and notice how it radiates out. Listen to those who respond to you. Develop this more and more each day and watch how your relationships grow.

Make A Habit Of Moving Away From Using The Word "Why”

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Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Gratitude Pt II

Having covered a few elements on gratitude back in April, I thought I’d write something new coming from a different perspective.

Over the summer, it was brought to my attention that it’s important to show gratitude not just for what we already have in life, but also for the things we acquire. The philosophy behind this is that only once we learn to be thankful and respectful for that which we gain, can we expect to gain more of the same.

Money is a typical example: on a professional level it can be great to pick up a pay rise, a bonus or some extra commission. On the surface these are all great benefits - naturally dependant on any knock-on effect from additional work commitments - but if everything works out well then we should be grateful for them. On a personal level it can be equally great to have an overdraft increased, a loan accepted, or to be lent a few extra pounds by a best friend when we really need it. Once again it’s for us to decide if its appropriate - especially if it encourage us to spend money unnecessarily and perhaps get futher into debt (another topic altogether) - but we should still be grateful. If they’re not right for us, then we must decline the offer.

Furthermore, we should express gratitude for all the other little bonuses that come our way, e.g. discounts on food, household items, cars, holidays, temporary loan rates, etc. And if someone buys us a gift, e.g. a “moving in” present, be grateful too. Imagine these as examples: your car breaks down and the cheapest estimate comes in at £500 - unimpressed, you speak to some friends and one of them refers a mechanic to you who gets the job done for half the cost; you move home without any furniture and a friend offers you a pair of sofas in excellent condition for £50 because they’re having them replaced; a friend suddenly pays back the £100 she borrowed from you a year ago when you’d given up on it knowing how much she was struggling financially. All of these outcomes deserve some degree of thanks because they’re each providing you with a benefit of some kind. That’s not to say that money is the “be all and end all” of everything - far from it - but it sures helps to save some especially when you need it most. Speaking of which, such savings could be used more positively and more beneficially elsewhere, couldn’t they? Let’s say you’ve saved £250 on having your car repaired, and feel so relieved by it that you take your partner out for that meal you’d been promising for weeks! Or you take that £100 from your friend and put it towards the cost a training course you’d been saving up for.

Another thing - as mentioned in the original Gratitude post, it’s sometimes appropriate for us to show gratitude to the person/organisation concerned in the form of words, a letter, an email, a text, etc. Other times it may be better for us to simply offer thanks to the universe. By doing this, we’re strengthening our respect, both for ourself and for life in general.

Gratitude is such a huge topic that other aspects will be covered in the near future, e.g. gratitude for those little moments that “help us out” during the day, through to gratitude for challenging and overcoming obstacles in our life. But before moving that far ahead, take a look below …

INQUIRY: What is your definition of gratitude? How often do you express it, both inwardly and outwardly? What are the differences in how you feel?

ACTION: Every day for a month, make yourself aware of the incidences when you should be expressing gratitude. Note how you respond - do you express something or do you let the moment go by with barely a thought or care? Familiarise yourself with the feeling of gratitude, especially if you feel awkward expressing it. Build up your courage daily until it becomes a habit that you feel in rhythm with. How does it impact your respect, both for yourself and others? And what other transformations does it create in your inner self?

Monday, January 08, 2007

Take Ownership Of Your "Issues"

What happens when we keep “passing the buck” and blaming others for our own errors and shortcomings? We get a reputation as a shirker – a liability who won’t accept being made accountable. Not only does this do us no favours at all in the eyes of others, it also means we’re less likely to learn from the incident because we’ve already convinced ourselves it’s somebody else’s “fault.” The solution? To take ownership of the incident and make amends in the best possible way.

Are You?

Honest Enough To Admit You’re Often “Passing The Buck”?
Losing Trust And Respect As A Result?
Determined Instead To Take Ownership?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Learn How To Turn All Such Negatives Into Positives
Gain Newfound Trust And Respect From Self And Others
Watch As Your Life And Opportunities Expand

Only by taking ownership in this way do we give ourselves the chance to learn and progress and make a difference. If we don’t then we remain as we are – motionless, dismissive and devoid of respect. Seeing it from this perspective, we realise there really is only one way forward – to refrain from blaming our environment (family, friends, colleagues, etc) and instead take absolute ownership of all that we do.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we start by being honest with ourselves and progress to becoming honest with those around us. Once in this habit, we open our lives to positive change and notice it rippling out into our environment. Most importantly, we develop trust and respect within ourselves and from others. Result – our integrity comes to the fore and our relationships and opportunities expand – it’s as simple as that.

INQUIRY: Take a look back over the last few weeks at the number of occasions where you “passed the buck” instead of taking ownership. What made you do that? What could you have done differently?

ACTION: For the next thirty days, take ownership of your errors and shortcomings. Act with integrity and be honest with yourself and others. Notice how much better you feel and the difference you’re able to make. Stretch yourself a little more each day.

Make A Habit Of Taking Ownership Of Your "Issues"

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Thursday, January 04, 2007

"Life-Minded" Individuals

2006 has been a year of tremendous and unimaginable transformation for me. One particular aspect has come about from the number of people I've connected with, many of whom I now call "life-minded" individuals - some of whom I've met only recently, others I've known for a long time. On both counts, it's true to say that there's at least one thing we share - a unique determination to live out our purpose and create benefit and value for others.

That's not to say they're all coaches because they're not. They come from many walks of life, but ultimately want to make a difference. It is for that very same reason that I believe the name "life-minded" individuals is most suitable. And I'm also very grateful for everything we've shared and learned together.

Let me know if you too are connecting with people like this in your life, or if you'd like to share something yourself ... contact me on