Learn To Build And Trust In InterDependent Relationships

What happens when we feel the need to impress by trying to “do it all” ourselves? We let ego get in the way of reality, and subsequently place pressure on ourselves. The result? We take on too much and end up making mistakes or failing to get things done “as and when expected.” In turn, we invite ridicule and judgment from ourselves, our friends and family, and our colleagues. The solution? To build relationships with those around us so to collectively share our skills, experience and resource.

Are You?

Constantly Trying To Impress By Taking On Too Much?
Thinking You Can “Do It All?”
Listening To Your Ego Instead Of Your Integrity?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Develop And Strengthen New And Existing Relationships
Discover The Benefits Of Sharing Wisdom And Responsibility
Learn How Collaboration Is Key To Success

By learning to work and share with others, we develop greater trust and understanding in ourselves, and greater respect and appreciation for our environment. In turn, we build positive and constructive alliances that produce valuable and proactive solutions for all concerned.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we push our ego to one side and acknowledge what it is we “bring to the table” and what it is we need assistance with. In doing so we move ourselves into a place of integrity that encourages genuine results through collaboration, thus preventing our ego dictating what we must to do to impress (either ourselves or someone else). Result – our natural-self radiates both within and without, attracting both greater relationships and greater opportunities.

INQUIRY: Take a look back at some recent occasions where you tried “doing it all” for the sake of making an impression. How often and how much did you let your ego dictate? What were the outcomes? Had you been coming more from a place of integrity what could you have done differently?

ACTION: For the next thirty days, be open and honest with yourself when faced with such opportunities. If your ego leaps in asking to be fed, shove it to one side and look at where you can collaborate for greater success. Notice how by revealing your integrity you naturally develop a stronger relationship with yourself and with those around you.

Make A Habit Of Learning To Build And Trust In InterDependent Relationships

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Best Wishes

Simon

“Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful,” Samuel Johnson

Create Win/Win Outcomes

What happens when we go through life looking only at what’s in it for us? We get selfish, we get greedy, and we get dependent on getting more of the same. The result? Our lives become attached to this way of being, often to the degree that we manifest a blatant disregard for others and our relationships. In turn, we become blinkered to the destructive nature of our actions and give rise to provocation and resentment. The solution? To create an outcome that ensures a win for all those involved.

Are You?

Constantly Working Out What’s In It For You?
Guilty Of Taking From Others Purely So You Can Benefit Yourself?
Aware Of The Negativity And Ill-Feeling Caused By This?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Unleash The Power Of Integrity
Discover How Mutual Benefit Serves All Those Involved
Learn How Winning Is About Giving, Not Just Taking

By seeking ways to manifest mutual gain, we develop trust and respect within ourselves and throughout our environment. In turn, we build stronger and more inter-dependent relationships that form the bedrock of future abundance. The path to creating this is to wake up, take a look at ourselves and step into a place of integrity.

How do we achieve this? Simple – when faced with the opportunity to manifest a win/win outcome, we must adopt the abundance mentality in believing there to be plenty of positivity and benefit in this for all concerned. When the other party is open to working in this way too, we have the green light to go ahead and achieve exactly this. If, on the other hand, the other party is disinterested in such a relationship, then we must determine whether or not we should continue any further. Result – our integrity blossoms and our relationship-building skills come to the fore in providing winning outcomes long into the future.

INQUIRY: Take a look back at some recent opportunities where you sought only to create a winning outcome for yourself. What were your intentions? How did you feel? What could you have done differently that created something of benefit for the other party?

ACTION: For the next thirty days, find ways to manifest mutual benefit in more and more of your relationships. Notice how different you feel.

Make A Habit Of Creating Win/Win Outcomes

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Best Wishes

Simon

“Earth provides enough to satisfy every man’s need, but not every man’s greed,” Mahatma Gandhi

Get Clear About Your Life Purpose

Do you wake each morning looking forward to the day ahead? Do you love what you do? Do you feel you’re being of service to others by creating benefit and value in your environment? If your answers sound anything like “no”, then it’s likely you’re not yet living the life that’s right for you. The result? You’re living out of habit with a routine that serves only to help you exist as opposed to live. The solution? To get clear about what it is you really should be doing with your life, to start living it and to realise the wonderful benefits for you and your environment

Are You?

Fed Up With Where You Are Right Now – Perhaps Even Resentful?
Wishing You Were Doing Something More Meaningful Each Day?
Sensing It’s Time You Did Something About It?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Discover What It Is That You Really Should Be Doing With Your Life
Transform It Into Reality
Revel In The Benefits That Come Your Way As Your Environment Seeks To Support You

By sticking to the same old routine of existing as opposed to living, we risk forming a habit that serves only to frustrate us. We slip out of alignment with our inner self, and because of this we fail to express our potential and the magnificence of the person we really are. The way to cut through this is to wake up to our calling – to discover what it is that motivates us to be of service and to make a difference.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we first need to discover our unique qualities and motivators for creating change, then set about applying them in our interactions with others. As we continue in this way, we begin expressing ourselves more naturally. In turn, we become compelled to make an even greater difference and do so by organising other areas of our life into alignment with this way of being and doing. Result – we open up to who we really are and find ourselves expressing a genuine love for life. We also benefit from the support of our environment as all manner of opportunities appear to help us on our way.

INQUIRY: Make a note of your core values and unique personal qualities. List some of the ways in which you enjoy expressing these when interacting with others. How can you call on them to make a difference? What more can you be and do to build on this?

ACTION: For the next thirty days, make this a reality by putting the above into action. Notice how different you feel, and the effect you have on your environment. Perhaps there’s a way you could make a living from this? If so, check it out – what’s the first step? Trust in yourself - grab the initiative and make it happen. You’ll never know the difference you can make until you’ve made it.

Make A Habit Of Getting Clear About Your Life Purpose

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“Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfilment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity,“ Viktor Frankl

Move Away From Using The Word "Why"

How do we feel when someone comes at us with a “Why” question, e.g. “Why haven’t you done …?” “Why do you always … ?“ or “Why do you never …?” Immediately we’re made to feel we’re the one at fault - we’re the one with the ‘problem’. In turn, it becomes easy for us to jump on the defensive, perhaps retaliating out of anger or closing up through insecurity. Either way it’s often counter-productive. And that’s exactly what can happen when we too ask someone a “Why” question. It even happens when we ask it of ourselves, e.g. “Why am always late for …” or “Why do I keep making that same mistake?” The solution? To come from a place of understanding so as to invite the other party to share more easily and openly.

Are You?

Always Asking “Why?” Of Other People (Or Yourself)?
Guilty Of Constantly Coming Across As Angry And Accusatory?
Feeling Yourself Getting More And More Stressed As A Result?

Begin making the transformation today!

What’s In It For You?

Learn How To Help Others Become More Receptive To You
Gain Their Trust And Support
Discover The Benefits Of Applying This Within Yourself Too

By moving from a place of accusation to a place of encouragement, we automatically invite ourselves and others to be more sharing and open. In other words, by making the change within, we create the change without. Key to this is transforming both our mindset and our choice of words – only then can we detach ourselves from the feelings of anger and frustration that we all too easily allow ourselves to attract.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we swap the word “Why” for something more open, e.g. “What are the reasons for … ?” “What happened to make …?” “For what reason …?” Once in this habit, we develop a more productive mindset and set of feelings. Not only do these radiate within us, they also reach out into our environment and invite constructive dialogue that reaps reward as opposed to condemnation. Result – we feel more open and accepting of ourselves and encourage others to feel the same – it’s as simple as that.

INQUIRY: Take a look back over the last few days at the number of occasions where you used a “Why” question. What kind of feeling did you associate with it? What kind of response did you receive? How much better could it have been had you been more understanding?

ACTION: For the next thirty days, stop yourself from asking “Why” and adopt a warmer approach. Get in touch with the way you’re feeling and notice how it radiates out. Listen to those who respond to you. Develop this more and more each day and watch how your relationships grow.

Make A Habit Of Moving Away From Using The Word "Why”

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Best Wishes

Simon

How To Stop Being Judgmental Of People And Situations

Personally, I find this a really difficult habit to break, because it’s so easy to judge a person or situation when I’m unsure of what’s really happening, e.g. a friend doesn’t call when they say they will, someone you’re meeting doesn’t turn up and you’re unable to contact them, you make a negative assessment of someone (or a situation) based on third party information, and so on. How easy is it to slander like this? All too easy, I think, because it’s human nature. And we can let it escalate by casting our mind back over all the occasions when this same person or organisation disappointed us before. Yet, how do we really know what’s going on behind the scenes, or what that person is going through, etc? In most cases we can’t, so we make a guess, otherwise known as a judgment. And all too often these are negative and slanderous, yet they’re often dumbfounded.

INQUIRY: How do we go about transforming this? Is it a case of getting in the routine of recognising when you’re doing it, and stopping it before it continues, i.e. letting go of the judgment and getting on with things?

For the next seven days, make a determination not to judge people and situations. That doesn’t mean adopting a carefree attitude, instead it means either releasing the whole process altogether, or replacing it with compassion and understanding. Have a look at where the other party is coming from? What are they going through?

Coming From The Heart

This is a topic I never would have approached in earnest a year ago, let alone at any other time in my life. Neither is it something that’s easy to share with just anyone – but I know it’s the right thing to be doing, so I’ll open it up with some questions and see what happens. I know that for those of you who connect with it, then great, and that for those of you who don’t, then that’s great too. This isn’t a lecture – it’s an observation shared.

INQUIRY: Ask yourself this one question: when you do or say something that comes from the heart, how does it make you feel? E.g. saying those three little words to your partner, taking care of your family, applying yourself to your work, etc.

Have a think about what all this means to you.

How much does it inspire you to develop and strengthen what you have?

ACTION: List all the words you associate with “coming from the heart.” What do the enable you to create and achieve? Make a list, then get out there and begin expressing them. If you feel uncomfortable, then push yourself just that little bit extra … see where it takes you, and what difference it makes.

Here are a few pointers: sincerity … honesty … trust … authenticity …

Fear Is The Gateway To Happiness

I heard someone mention this during the introduction to a training session recently, and I have to admit it landed really heavily with me. It was also exactly what I needed to hear, because I had been challenging my life more and more of late, and knew deep down that I had to continue doing so in order to expand my opportunities.

When given permission, fear can do so much to debilitate us. Yet when challenged and overcome, it can be banished for good, thus opening up all manner of avenues.

INQUIRY: Make a list of the things you fear in daily life and beyond. Think back over the last few days, perhaps even weeks … what obstacles and challenges have you had to overcome? And which have you chosen to shy away from?

ACTION: Now make a list of those you expect to face in the next few days. Right now, which are you likely to embrace as a challenge, and which are you likely to give in to?

Taking a look at both lists and ask yourself how much better your life would be if you were to conquer those fears. Be open and honest – you don’t have to share these with anyone. Just take a look at them by yourself. What steps could you take to conquer these fears?

The Benefits Of REALLY Listening

How many times have you been interrupted by someone before you’ve had the time to finish what you’re saying? Quite a few, I bet. How does it make you feel? Ignored … annoyed … perhaps even furious at times? And how many times do you do the same by return? Ah, now you see, the boot’s on the other foot!

So why do we do it? Probably a whole host of reasons; we’re impatient; we like the sound of our own voice; we’re not really interested in what the other person has to say; and that’s just to begin with. If all our conversations were like this, then how much good would come of them? Not a lot. So what’s the answer? How about listening for a change? And letting the other person finish? How do we do that? We forget about ourselves for a moment and really pay attention to the person who’s speaking – not just their words, but their meaning, their emotion, and where applicable, their body language.

INQUIRY: How often do you get annoyed by others who interrupt you as described above? And how often are you guilty of the same by return? What are you creating when you give someone the opportunity to speak fully.

ACTION: This week, pay special attention to your conversations. Call a halt to interrupting people when they’re speaking. Notice how it feels. In a polite and courteous way, encourage those who normally interrupt you to do the same. Again, notice how it feels.