You Can Do Anything You Want ...

... When You Put You Mind - And Heart - To It!

Many of us are brought up with the adage that we can achieve anything providing we put our minds to it ... which is probably fair and accurate to a degree.

However, over the last year or so, I've been experiencing - both within myself and with my clients - that whilst this can certainly help us achieve what (we think) we want, it won't necessarily mean we're aspiring for what's right for us.

In other words, things like our beliefs, our ego, our personal agenda, etc, all get in the way ... and often these are the cause of us seeking to achieve and obtain "things" we believe are right for us, but in fact are nothing of the kind.

And this is where the heart steps in ... because it is the heart that so often is the source of genuine inspiration that motivates and compels into manifesting what's right for our life. It's the place where we find passion, desire, drive, tenacity, wisdom, courage, compassion, understanding, reason, and so much more ...

The great things is that when we look at these "components," we see they're all positive and productive, as opposed to many of those guided by the mind which are all too often negative and self-limiting.

So I guess what I'm saying here is that when we open our heart and connect with the reality of our lives, we're able to better understand what it is we want and how to achieve it.

What are your experiences of this?

Allow The Opportunity To Trust In Yourself

What happens when we allow our self-limiting beliefs to form barriers that prevent us achieving what we know is right for us? More often than not they end up doing exactly that – keeping us pinned in so as to prevent us winning and moving forward. Take a look at these as examples; “I’ll never get the chance to make it up to them,” or “I’ll never be offered that job,“ or “I’ll never get them to listen to me.” The result? Our attitude forms a level of expectancy that regularly manifests into reality – something we can have few qualms about. The solution? To allow ourselves the opportunity of winning by at least giving ourselves a chance.

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By shifting ourselves into this state of ‘allowing’, we unconsciously open our hearts and minds to the possibility of manifesting exactly what it is that is right for our life. Sometimes that means looking at what it is we need to achieve and taking the relevant action; other times that means simply developing trust within ourselves and our environment – in other words, ’allowing’ the opportunity to unfold. While the former can be perceived as the more practical and ‘hands-on,’ it is often the latter that conspires to have us intuitively taking the right action even when we’re totally unaware of it.

How do we achieve this? Simple – we throw all judgments and self-doubt to one side, and open ourselves to the possibility of winning. For example, here’s how we would turn around the aforementioned situations; “… I will create an opportunity to make it up to them,“ and “… I will be offered that job,” and “… I will find some way of helping them listen to me.“ Ultimately it’s about going one step further than simply developing a positive mindset – it’s about believing in what is right for our life and trusting that we and our environment will manifest this accordingly. Result – we smash through and leave behind those self-limiting beliefs, enabling us to advance forward and expand our lives and our horizons.

INQUIRY: How often are you held back by a lack of self-belief and optimism? Without this thought, how much better would your life be? What more could you create and achieve?

ACTION: For the next thirty days, ‘allow’ yourself the benefit of feeling positive and abundant regarding your goals and determinations. If at any time you feel gripped by self-limiting beliefs, shove them aside and step into a place of creativity and opportunity. Open your heart and mind to the possibility of winning. Practice how it feels. If necessary, release attachment to outcome and simply trust in yourself and your environment. Notice how much more positive you feel. Continue putting this into practice and experience your life moving forward with opportunity and abundance.

Make A Habit To Allow The Opportunity To Trust In Yourself

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Simon

Life-State - What Is It?

Essentially our lifestate is the moment-to-moment strength we have when dealing with everyday life. One moment we can be up, the next we can be down. For example, let's say we're in a rush to reach somewhere important and hit some traffic - for many of us that means our lifestate becoming one of anger - then we glance across at an Aston Martin joining the lane next to us - envy - the phone rings and it's someone form work informing us a tricky problem has just been solved - relief - steadily the traffic begins to disperse and for a few moments we let ourselves feel almost happy - then the phone rings again - this time it's our partner telling us our child has fallen ill at school and needs picking up - once again, our lifestate is on the move, and so it continues moment by moment.

When - as with the example above - we allow our environment to control our lifestate, we invite all manner of consequences ... We become dictated to by events ... We become attached to outcomes ... We become dependant on externals. In other words, when things are going well we're "happy", or so we believe, but when things are going not so well we're "unhappy". And when things get really tough, what do we do then? Hide ourselves away by doing something we shouldn't? Perhaps we rush out and get drunk, start smoking again, have a fling, change jobs, give someone a piece of our mind, lash out, go on a spending spree, etc. Typically these are reactions, albeit some more spontaneous than others. That's not to say they're inherently wrong per se - that's down to each individual's circumstances - but neither does it say they're right. What it does say is that we're allowing ourselves to suffer when our lifestate is low and we're kidding ourselves that the only way to escape all this is by seeking happiness outside ourselves. In other words, we tell ourselves the best way to beat the bad stuff is to reach out and grab some good stuff. And so the cycle continues ...

What's the solution? To make the determination to strengthen our lifestate and win in every moment no matter what. We achieve this by making fundamental changes to our way of being from the inside out. It's no good changing our environment - that will only lead to greater dependance. Instead, we must make the change from within. Everything we need is there already - all we need do is tap into it and take ownership and responsibility for each moment of our life. Only then can we move forward with true spirit and determination. That's not to say it's easy. Far from it in most cases, but the benefits are exponential. We even begin to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth - that's when we really know we're winning!

There is no short-cut to achieving change as sustainable as this - it builds over time. Yet it begins with the determination to win. I started this very same journey back in 2004 and have created a module specific to helping create this change. It provides genuine insight into how we can cut through the negative habits and patterns in our life to create a far greater existence for ourselves and others. Contact me on simon@rightlifecoaching.co.uk for more information.

INQUIRY: Look back over the last few weeks (and months if you prefer) at all the incidents that have sent you reeling from one emotional state to another - both good and not so good. How did you cope with them? Did you let them dictate to you, or did you claim ownership and win no matter what? What could you have done better?

ACTION: For the next month, beware of when you're allowing your environment to control you. Watch out for when you let the negative side of things get you down, and for when you cling to something positive in the hope it will make you feel better. If you find yourself bouncing from one lifestate to another then make a note of it - this means you're making steps in the right direction. When you're ready, contact simon@rightlifecoaching.co.uk to learn how to build on this and create a lifestate strong enough to withstand all challenges.

Sometimes It's Better To Admit You Just Don't Know

For years I was guilty of making out I knew more than I did. Sometimes it was a case of trying to impress, other times it was not wanting to admit I was wrong, and other times it was not wanting to appear ignorant about a topic or situation. Yet on just about every occassion I was perfectly aware of what I was doing but felt unable to prevent it. It felt as though I had to provide this 'cover' for fear of being found out. Yet all it was doing was compounding the issue by drawing attention to that very weakness. In worst-case scenarios it would lead me to fighting my corner even when I knew I was absolutely in the wrong, and with nothing to substantiate my argument with. All it did was create a layer of arrogance to paper over the insecurity, yet I did little to fix it.

It wasn't until four years ago when my partner at the time made it abundantly clear to me how irritating it was, that I decided it had to stop. Thankfully her words resonated enough for me to literally make the shift overnight. With immediacy I went from saying, "I know," to offering a curteous acknowledgement; and from making out I knew something I quite clearly didn't to offering something intuitive or simply admitting I really didn't know.

To begin with it was strange because it felt awkward to 'display' such a vulnerability. But over time, that in itself became the benefit because it was actually a relief not to have to pretend anymore. A self-imposed weight had been lifted from my shoulders and it felt great. I could even say it grounded me in a way. And ever since, I've noticed how many other people behave in exactly the same way. And guess what ... it irritates me too! But I also undertand where they're coming from because I was in that same place - that makes a difference.

INQUIRY: How often do you say "I know" when being 'corrected' by someone more knowledgeable who is just trying to help? How often do you try to make out you know or understand something when really you don't? How much awareness of this do you have, and how do you feel when it just blurts out?

ACTION: For the next seven days, do the following and notice how different you feel; instead of saying, "I know," when offered correct 'advice' by someone, acknowledge them; instead of coming up with a 'smart' reply or comment when pretending you know something, let go of the pretense and admit you just don't know. You may find it far more liberating than you thought ... and it will make a difference to the way you see yourself and the way others see you too.

Analysing vs "Just Letting It Be"

I was on a course back in early May when I had the realisation that I no longer needed to be so analytical about everything. It came so out of the blue that I surprised myself when I didn’t even feel the need to analyse what had triggered it.

Since as far back as I can remember, I’ve been a thinker – a person who would analyse things – and would often be accused of over-analysing. Yet no-one had said to me, “Relax … just let it be …” All they would say was, “Stop analysing it,” and that would only incite me to analyse even more. You can see just how big I was on the whole analysing thing, eh? So when I had this shift in mindset during the course, I felt totally at ease without thinking about it. And it doesn’t matter that I don’t know where it’s come from. All I do know is that I’ve been attracting conversations ever since with people who’ve had the same experience. So I guess it’s happened for a reason – I just haven’t found what that is yet.

I’d just like to add that it’s made me feel ‘lighter’, perhaps even liberated, and that whatever it is I need to know comes to me at the right time. If I was to explain it, I’d say there may well be times in the future when I’ll need to think things through in more detail, but for the time being, I can ‘let it be.’ Off the top of my head, it’s like the feeling you get when something you want to say is on the tip of your tongue… then you forget all about it and suddenly it comes to you out of the blue, perhaps an hour later, a day later, or even a month later. Is it because we released attachment to forcing whatever it was we wanted to find out? Is it connected with the way our mind or consciousness works? Whatever it is, it’s working right now!

INQUIRY: Are you a thinker, or are you someone who prefers to let things work themselves out? How many profound experiences have you had based on this? Are you too changing the way you work things out?

Using Your Intuition

Throughout my life, my intuition has veered from one extreme to the other, rarely settling in the middle. Yet as a coach, we’re encouraged to experiment with it more and more, regardless of how unnatural or “off the mark” it appears. That’s all well and good, I thought, but surely you have to be careful (e.g. diplomatic), or else risk offending the other person. Either way, it didn’t really sit very comfortably with me.

Still, I determined to get to grips with it and kept blurting whatever came to mind. I wasn’t sure if I was experimenting with it, because by nature, I’m the sort of person who tends to speak their mind anyway – although this is definitely something I’ve reigned in of late. As was happening previously, my intuition were sometimes incredibly accurate, sometimes the total opposite. And it’s only been in the last few weeks that I can honestly say it’s ‘improving’, if that’s the right word. I think what’s happening is my intuition is feeding more and more on a diet of wisdom – where that’s coming from, I don’t yet know – but it’s certainly coming to the fore with better timing. To me, that currently feels neither right nor wrong – it’s just the way it is.

I’m also feeling my intuition working on the bigger picture … don’t know how to explain this, or what it means … not going to analyse it, just letting it be … will no doubt know more soon.

INQUIRY: How often do you call on your intuition? Do you use it only in the company of people you’re comfortable with, or are you happy blurting to anyone? How accurate is it?

ACTION: Check in with your intuition for the next seven days. Make a note of the impact it creates. Does anyone comment on it?

Let Go Of Attachment To Outcomes

I have to be honest and say I’m experimenting with this one, and because I’m currently no longer analysing things, I’m not yet sure where it’s leading me. All I do know is that I feel a lot “lighter, and less stressed. It’s a strange feeling, but one that feels right. In fact, it feels as though the attachment element was breeding worry and concern, and that by removing it, I’m placing trust and faith in the right outcome manifesting itself at the right time.It really is a strange feeling, and one that people I’ve been meeting of late are identifying with. Perhaps it’s a stepping stone to something.

On a personal note, I believe that by creating goals and determination driven with the right intentions, you’re more likely to release your attachment … have a think about this and list anything that comes to mind. How much has your perspective changed?

INQUIRY: List some goals and determinations (or whatever you prefer to call them), and ask yourself how attached you are to the outcome. Is it natural for you to attach yourself to the outcome? If so, look at the intentions behind one or two goals you want to achieve in the next few days … if those intentions are good, then have a go removing your attachment … just “let it be.” How does it feel?

Fear Is The Gateway To Happiness

I heard someone mention this during the introduction to a training session recently, and I have to admit it landed really heavily with me. It was also exactly what I needed to hear, because I had been challenging my life more and more of late, and knew deep down that I had to continue doing so in order to expand my opportunities.

When given permission, fear can do so much to debilitate us. Yet when challenged and overcome, it can be banished for good, thus opening up all manner of avenues.

INQUIRY: Make a list of the things you fear in daily life and beyond. Think back over the last few days, perhaps even weeks … what obstacles and challenges have you had to overcome? And which have you chosen to shy away from?

ACTION: Now make a list of those you expect to face in the next few days. Right now, which are you likely to embrace as a challenge, and which are you likely to give in to?

Taking a look at both lists and ask yourself how much better your life would be if you were to conquer those fears. Be open and honest – you don’t have to share these with anyone. Just take a look at them by yourself. What steps could you take to conquer these fears?

Coincidences vs Synchronicity

Call it what you like, the subject of coincidences – otherwise referred to as synchronicity - is something most, if not all, of us have some connection with. Yet where do they come from? What causes them? What do they mean?

Thinking aloud, the first two questions may offer a clue. If something has to come from somewhere, then surely it’s origin is in the past. And if its origin is in the past, then surely something had to happen to cause it’s creation. That all sounds feasible enough … so how about combining the two: a coincidence is the result of a cause made in the past? Now, how does that sound? And perhaps more importantly, what do they mean?

Hmm, do we need an answer? Some of us do, some of us don’t. So what is it? How about this: a coincidence is the manifest effect of a cause we created in the past. In other words, we once did something to trigger this coincidence. And what if this cause was in alignment with something else in the universe, and as a result, became manifest in our lives at the time we needed it to? Now, it’s fair to say that not every coincidence has depth and meaning, but we can’t escape the fact that some do. Some are especially profound. Is that because they’re showing us something, perhaps a clue or a hint?

INQUIRY: What’s your perception of coincidence and synchronicity?

ACTION: For the next week, take a closer look at any such moments as they appear. Write them down. Now list what could have caused them, and what they might mean. Is there a pattern? Is there a connection?