Law Of Attraction

This is a topic that’s been appearing more frequently of late and probably carries more weight than I previously gave it credit. And having left my investigative/analytical past behind, I’m not entirely sure what it all means. So … taking an open mind, I’m reading over some case studies while trying to get a grasp on the scientific evidence that backs it up, namely quantum physics of all things! Can’t say that’s my speciality subject, so we’ll just have to see what happens.

Other than that, it’s more-or-less making sense, explaining how the focus of our intentions and desires resonates throughout the universe, thus attracting and manifesting those very things. In other words, we tend more often than not to ‘get’ what we’re focusing on. A simple example is attracting the wrong kind of partner into our life time and time again, with the Law of Attraction explaining how this can be caused by focusing too much on the negative aspects rather than the positive – a case of “why do I always end up with people that hurt me?”

One solution is to stop taking the default option of carrying the same intentions and actions into each relationship – the expectancy of hurt and failure – and to switch attention to what it is we do want. That’s not to say this is an easy transition to make, it’s simply stating that a change in mindset is what’s needed. For some of us, that can become a journey in itself, because finding and fixing the root of the ‘problem’ is going to take more time and effort, yet reap far greater – and indeed longer term – reward. So many things can come into play here, namely clarity, confidence, courage, and not least of all the desire to change. Yet this is exactly the kind of challenge we need to develop ourselves and move on, otherwise we simply stay where we are and suffer ‘the same old story’ time and time again. One particular thing to bear in mind, however, is that when we aspire for something that is simply not right for our life, then it is very possible that that very thing may not manifest as expected. This might be perceived as guidance from the universe prompting us to look for something else in that area. Another thing that can happen is that we get what we wanted, only to discover we really didn’t want it. Again, this may be perceived as another form of guidance, whereupon it’s down to us to learn from such an experience and realign our focus on something more appropriate. This in itself is a topic ripe for discussion, and something I shall be posting on in the coming weeks.

INQUIRY: Have a look at what it is you’re attracting in your life, whether it be good, bad, or indifferent. Include as many areas of your life as you wish, especially relationships, financial, career, and personal. Which of your thoughts, words and deeds are encouraging these effects to manifest? What could you re-focus on to create a more positive effect?

ACTION: Think of something specific you’d like to achieve or attain within a month from today. The clearer you define your goal, the more likely you are to maintain a positive focus and achieve it. Grab a piece of paper and describe in detail what it looks like, feels like, and sounds like. Now list exactly what needs to happen for it to manifest as you would like. For example, if your current car is proving unreliable to the extent that it prevents you getting to and from your place of work without worry, then you could focus on attracting the right car into your life. The specifics could include manufacturer, model, engine size/type, mileage, full service history, less than five years old, safe, reliable, etc. Of course, with an example such as this, it is also important to look at whether or not the universe is prompting you to look at changing your place of work – this is something only you can decide for yourself. Similarly, you must be fair with regard to what you’re looking for, i.e. by all means push the boundaries of being realistic but not to the extent that you’re being absurd. If a £5k three-year old Astra with 75000 miles is the right car for you then focus on exactly that, rather than on a one-year old BMW for £20k.

Finally, keep this piece of paper with you and use it for focusing with every day. All the time, remember your worth whilst reminding yourself of the benefit and value you can create with this opportunity.

Does The Universe Have A Life-Support System?

It’s been mentioned elsewhere on this site that we’re living in a world of decline, and it’s our fault, nobody else’s. By the way, that’s a collective “our” on behalf of humanity, not a finger-pointing exercise. And there is evidence that those who are standing up and making a difference, i.e. creating good causes, are the ones receiving great benefit and opportunity. Therefore, is it fair to accept the universe as having a life-support system that recognises these very actions, and actively supports and encourages those making them by “rewarding” them with manifesting good effects? In other words, it’s another take on the adage, “you reap what you sow.”

What do you think?

Science vs Spirituality

Here’s a thought that struck me yesterday, even though it’s been on my mind for months: does science provide the basis for the existence of everything, and if so, where does that leave spirituality?

Although having an interest in most things spiritual, I do feel that science is still the bedrock of existence, if only as a blanket term for the explanation of everything. Therefore I see spirituality as a layer resting somewhere above science, interweaving all the time.

So I guess what I’m getting at is the question: “When we have a spiritual encounter or experience, are we labelling it spiritual because we don’t understand – or chose not to believe – that its foundation lies in science?” Or does spirituality function on a totally separate level independent of science altogether?

INQUIRY: How much of a spiritual person are you? How many spiritual encounters have you had? What influence or impact did they have on your life?

Using Your Intuition

Throughout my life, my intuition has veered from one extreme to the other, rarely settling in the middle. Yet as a coach, we’re encouraged to experiment with it more and more, regardless of how unnatural or “off the mark” it appears. That’s all well and good, I thought, but surely you have to be careful (e.g. diplomatic), or else risk offending the other person. Either way, it didn’t really sit very comfortably with me.

Still, I determined to get to grips with it and kept blurting whatever came to mind. I wasn’t sure if I was experimenting with it, because by nature, I’m the sort of person who tends to speak their mind anyway – although this is definitely something I’ve reigned in of late. As was happening previously, my intuition were sometimes incredibly accurate, sometimes the total opposite. And it’s only been in the last few weeks that I can honestly say it’s ‘improving’, if that’s the right word. I think what’s happening is my intuition is feeding more and more on a diet of wisdom – where that’s coming from, I don’t yet know – but it’s certainly coming to the fore with better timing. To me, that currently feels neither right nor wrong – it’s just the way it is.

I’m also feeling my intuition working on the bigger picture … don’t know how to explain this, or what it means … not going to analyse it, just letting it be … will no doubt know more soon.

INQUIRY: How often do you call on your intuition? Do you use it only in the company of people you’re comfortable with, or are you happy blurting to anyone? How accurate is it?

ACTION: Check in with your intuition for the next seven days. Make a note of the impact it creates. Does anyone comment on it?

Coincidences vs Synchronicity

Call it what you like, the subject of coincidences – otherwise referred to as synchronicity - is something most, if not all, of us have some connection with. Yet where do they come from? What causes them? What do they mean?

Thinking aloud, the first two questions may offer a clue. If something has to come from somewhere, then surely it’s origin is in the past. And if its origin is in the past, then surely something had to happen to cause it’s creation. That all sounds feasible enough … so how about combining the two: a coincidence is the result of a cause made in the past? Now, how does that sound? And perhaps more importantly, what do they mean?

Hmm, do we need an answer? Some of us do, some of us don’t. So what is it? How about this: a coincidence is the manifest effect of a cause we created in the past. In other words, we once did something to trigger this coincidence. And what if this cause was in alignment with something else in the universe, and as a result, became manifest in our lives at the time we needed it to? Now, it’s fair to say that not every coincidence has depth and meaning, but we can’t escape the fact that some do. Some are especially profound. Is that because they’re showing us something, perhaps a clue or a hint?

INQUIRY: What’s your perception of coincidence and synchronicity?

ACTION: For the next week, take a closer look at any such moments as they appear. Write them down. Now list what could have caused them, and what they might mean. Is there a pattern? Is there a connection?